Manipulation is at best an aggressive intrusion into someone else's soul and at worst energetic vampirism. The problem is that so many of us, I dare say all of us, have at some point invested in this act. It's one of the cornerstones of the human ego, to subtly coerce someone to do something you want them to do without thought or consideration of whether they want to do it themselves. We learn this trick as children, we play on our grazed knees to get more sweeties or feign illness to get attention. It's how these acts are handled in our infancy that define our relationship to our own energy up until the point of self actualisation. Manipulation at it's core is a manifestation of fear of personal, spiritual and emotional truth. People that manipulate have a very flaky relationship to their own truth and it's here I should point out that there is a difference between honesty and truth.
Honesty is an admittance of what you are thinking and feeling in the moment. If someone is mean to me an honest reaction is for me to want to punch them in the face, the truth of the situation is something entirely different. The truth is that my energy allowed that interaction in the first place and it's my job to figure out why, how and course correct. Honesty is the reason a lot of people use for acts of emotional violence. “It's how I'm feeling and THEY ( whomever they are ) need to know about it.”. No they don't. No one does. Authenticity is the marriage between honesty and truth allowing both of them to live simultaneously and symbiotically in a way than enhances everyone's experience. I'm not talking about your surpressing your reactions because sometimes you need to react but a reaction without a connection to truth is often a breeding ground for people to lose their minds. We are culturally in a cyclical reaction at the moment that revolves around shock value. We have lost our connection and reverence for our truth which is why we seem to revere opinion over fact at the moment. This will calm when we all collectively begin to dig past our honesty and find the core of who we are.
We cannot pretend that we are above manipulation and I am still surprised that at some points I catch myself habitually slipping into that energy. I am like so many of you who was raised in a people pleasing mentality and when you are a person that cares a lot for others it's easy to use that as a platform to inspire sympathy and other toxic exchanges. It takes real growth to admit when and where you are lying to yourself. Most of us don't own our truths because we are afraid of hurting others. Yes, it's true that the truth often hurts but lies hurt even more. At least when it comes to truth there is an opportunity for healing in the exchange. So by all means be honest but also be truthful.
Thank you,
Big Love,
Ryan James x
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