Denial in the right dose is not only healthy but a necessary part of our development. If we don't compartmentalise our lives the entirety of who we are would come rushing to the forefront of our minds and stay there! We simply aren't designed to cope with that level of conscious information. We need things to remain in the dark corners of our minds until we are ready to use them, acknowledge them and sometimes release them. Denial only becomes a negative thing when it is paired with fear and used to stop the flow of good feelings through you. We are the essence of the Universe, we are the substance that is everything, everywhere at all times in all spaces, we NEED denial in order to keep that out. We need it in order to do what we are here to do and without it there would be no point in us coming forward.

When denial gets out of hand, when you find yourself suppressing or with holding your own happiness from you then the very first thing to do is forgive yourself. You'd be surprised how many people forget that step in personal development. Forgive who you were taught to become because right now in this moment you are teaching yourself to be someone different. When you put pressure on yourself to get things done instead of surrendering to the flow, forgive yourself. When you regret past decisions instead of accepting that they made you who you are, forgive yourself. When you find ways to tell yourself that you are not good enough or less than someone else instead of the divine expression of perfection that is everything you are, forgive yourself. It is without question the first step to releasing fear and moving through any form of inhibiting denial.

If you feel stuck or blocked, if you feel like the Universe just isn't on your team today instead of trying to figure it out turn your attention to forgiveness. Where do you need to forgive yourself? Are your expectations unrealistic? Too much pressure on yourself? Trying to make yourself something or someone you're not? Find where you need to forgive yourself and then do it!

 

Big Love

 

Ryan James